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Women Don’t Want to Get Married: No Need to Marry a Man–Marry Yourself

October 26, 2010

I have not had a blog post that go more attention than the one in which I discussed the article showing more and more women are choosing not to get married: Women Don’t Want to Get Married and Have Children Because It Is Too Much Work:  Who Is Surprised.

Biscuit, one of my readers, is just the latest to comment on this concept, but she does it very succinctly:

I’ve continued to a lot of reading about this subject in the last couple of weeks. Statistics say that “people” benefit from marriage. When you read further one finds that being married results in men earning more money, eating healthier, getting better medical care and having less stress. These studies fail to outline the benefits that women receive for being married. I have learned, though, being married for women results in earning less money, eating less healthy, gaining more weight, being responsible for much more housework and having much more stress than their single sisters. We learn that “people benefit from marriage” really means “men benefit from marriage”. I want to see the study that shows how women benefit from marriage. I’m not sure it exists. Women get married because there is intense cultural pressure to get married. This cultural pressure is on the decline. As the pressure diminishes so will womens’ desire to marry.

There is the concept of commitment that many women crave, and one woman just decided to go ahead and give herself a wedding, sans groom:

Uninspired by the men she’s met but facing social pressure to get married, the 30-year-old Taipei office worker will hold the reception next month in honor of just one person.

“Age thirty is a prime period for me. My work and experience are in good shape, but I haven’t found a partner, so what can I do?” Chen said.

“It’s not that I’m anti-marriage. I just hope that I can express a different idea within the bounds of a tradition.”

Her T$50,000 ($5,675) wedding comes after online publicity that has netted 1,800 largely sympathetic comments.

“I think there will be more and more girls like this,” said “divagirl,” who did not elaborate.

Taiwanese women are marrying later and less often as their economic status advances, fuelling government concerns about a drop in the birth rate and its impact on productivity.

Only 40 percent of women surveyed earlier this year by the education ministry said they imagined married people could live better than singles, local media said.

More and more women have decided that marriage only really helps men, not women.  Hey Guys, seems like there has been a challenge put out there:  show us how marriage can be good for women too!

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