Rihanna Is The Poster Child of An Abused Woman and Chris Brown is Violent
There, that isn’t shocking to anyone is it? I don’t understand this whole bit about the general public being shocked that Rihanna, clearly and abused woman, clearly showing signs many women who stay in abusive relationships show: psychological trauma, defending the partner, telling other people it’s not their business if their partner bloodies their face, getting back together with men who have hit them, surprises others. Rihanna fits the exact profile of an abused woman, down to telling people that it’s her feelings that count, as opposed to those who want to protect her. I would argue that there is some truth to her assertion she recently made on Oprah that it’s no one else’s business, essentially “”I can’t tell people how to feel about it. They’re entitled to feel angry because it wasn’t a good thing. But it happened to me.” BUT, and it’s a big one exception, Rihanna’s money-making abilities may depend on how she conducts her private life. People get sacked for private life scandals all the time. Perhaps the Petraeus story escaped her, or the Elmo story, maybe the Clinton scandal missed her, because Rihanna is very young after all.
The bottom line is that when you are in the public eye, your private business may impact your financial bottom line. Your private views may impact your bottom line. (See the piece I just wrote on Rush Limbaugh…)
You can’t be famous and then claim privacy when you have people disagree and expect to not affect you financially or in your career.
Chris Brown obviously doesn’t understand this either after his latest misogynist Twitter escapade that culminated in his followers’ offering death threats to another woman., not Rihanna this time. He threatened another woman and broadcast it nationwide. Poor Chris Brown, humbled picking garbage after his last bit, now back to threatening women again. Poor Chris Brown who seems to believe his beating Rihanna is someone else’s fault. Poor guy.
While people may allow that Rihanna got hurt by Chris Brown once, they won’t have sympathy for her going back to him, unless those people happen to be hosting the View, which I categorically can’t stand, the most misogynist group of women on a talk show, I have yet to see be topped by someone as odious even as Laura Ingrenam. If you are a host on The View, most notably, older-and-should-have-known-better-but-terrifically-undereducated-and-informed-Whoopie Goldberg (remember when you used to be warm and funny, Whoop, as opposed to the mean and sarcastic bit that you wear like an old shawl? Remember, Ghost? Remember how to get people to like you? Remember?) Anyway, in case you missed the View travesty (and amazingly some people don’t), here you go, courtesy of the Huff Post:
On Monday, Sherri Shepherd said, “I’m not saying Chris Brown was right… he was wrong. The problem I have with Chris is you’re influencing a generation of young people. And young people are hearing ‘if someone I don’t know says something I don’t like, I can respond in this way.'” (e.g., vulgar, defensive and aggressive.)
Now this I agree with. Like it or not Brown, you’re a role model: sculpted out of the machine that is behind your career. You want the big, big productions? And the big, big money? Then you have to tolerate the exposure and subsequent scrutiny that comes with it. Especially if you have a personal Twitter account. Or… had. But what’s most surprising about The View’s discussion is the presence of the blame the victim mentality, and by women no less.
Shepherd continues “… but I also say to this grown woman [Johnson], when you tweet out ‘you’re a worthless piece of [shit],’ what do you expect to get back? You’ve got a 23-year-old with a lot of money, a lot of bravado and a lot of pride… ”
Whoopi piggybacks on Shepherd’s comment: “If you want to mess with him, you have to expect to get your head handed to you.” So that makes Brown’s response acceptable? No. An acceptable response would be to ignore it, because ignoring it would have drawn limited attention to it outside of a few thousand comedy fans. Ignoring it also says to the world that you are at peace with who you are. Brown is clearly not at peace with his role in his continuing narrative.
They all weighed in. Including Elizabeth Hasselback who called Brown’s response “verbal rape” and Joy Behar who said, “I’ve never heard of her [Johnson] before, now I know who she is” as if to imply that Jenny Johnson’s response was a premeditated desire to become famous — for this — instead of (what I can only assume was) a knee-jerk joke based on her personal feelings about Brown. Because, you know, she’s a comedian. Remember when you were a comedian Joy?
Johnson’s head was hardly handed to her. She handled herself in a way I would expect any comedian who half-knowingly decides to pick a fight: by being funny and holding her own. Brown’s response? To threaten Johnson with farting and sharting (a joyful mixture of shitting and farting) on her face and then delete his Twitter account. The absence of Chris Brown on Twitter then enraged some of Brown’s fans who sent those death threats to Johnson (Twitter, are you doing something about this? Because it’s not OK).
For the record, watching comedians as talk show hosts is not all that funny, look at washed up comedians like Ellen, Joy, Whoopi, Hasselbeck, whoops, she was serious? Hmm, it’s hard for me to find anything to like on the View, or with Rihanna. I don’t like women who do really pathetic things like going back to an abusive man. I know I should like the woman, and I know I should blame the man, and I do blame Chris Brown, but I don’t like either one of them. I get tired of listening to women like Rihanna justify their desperate insecurity. I get tired of hearing about how they feel bad, too, because other people think they are morons. I get tired of hearing about how some asshole like Chris Brown deserves anything more than sharting himself, because he doesn’t. His mother should be ashamed. His father should be ashamed, but I also don’t like the whole bit about how this should all still be private. Hello, Rihanna actually tweets pictures of herself undressed around the world, and if that’s not attention-seeking, then perhaps there really are unicorns. Rihanna courts attention but then wants to dictate to people how she should be able to live her life in peace. Chris Brown, well, there are places reserved for fuck-ups like him, and I would say that he hasn’t found them yet, but he is headed there fast.
Guess it won’t hit them until it hits their bottom-line.